Everyone suffers tragedy. Tragedy comes in every shape and size imaginable. Job loss, chronic illness, divorce, trauma, the death of a family member, spouse, or when we hear the words “You have cancer,” everything changes. It’s one thing to hear about someone else’s tragedy, it’s another when it’s your own. The strange irony is that even though your world stops, nobody else’s does. The clock keeps ticking, the stoplights keep directing traffic, and others are oblivious to the agony and anguish that exists in your world. It’s as if everything is happening in slow motion and nothing makes sense.
We have no idea what we need to do or what to even think. What used to be a simple task might now be a difficult decision. Emotions run wild and you never know when you are going to burst into tears so you don’t even want to shop in a familiar place. If you have experienced tragedy you know the feeling, you get it, but that doesn’t make it any easier.
Unfortunately life will never be the same. It’s can’t be. Things are different now. You are living in a new reality even if you didn’t want it. You were forced to start a new chapter before you had time to close the old one. It feels like someone ripped one of the legs of a chair and now you are trying to find a new balance point. All I can say is I’m sorry for your situation. I’m sorry you are where you are because of what happened. It bites. I wish I could say that there is a quick fix for you, but if there was, you would already know about it by now.
Things might be dark right now, but I want to encourage you that things can get better. You will be able to navigate your way through the pain and endure, but it’s going to be difficult and take time. Probably more time than you think. But you will get through this; you have to get through this. Some people will tell you that you need to get over it, but the truth is that you never get over it; you get through it and gradually start to live again.
Having a plan is one of the best things a person can do to begin working through tragedy and start healing. When we have a plan, it gives us a direction to go and this helps us feel like we are taking steps in the right direction. This is the plan that I have used to work through some of the tragedy in my own life. I have also used this plan to help others. My prayer is that it will help you.